Communication Ways; Expression Of Blaming, Accusing, and Admitting

Communication Ways;

Expression Of Blaming, Accusing, and Admitting

In interpersonal conversation, we often experience many kinds of situation.Making mistake is one of the examples.When we make a mistake, sometimes we fell difficult to confess it.It’s a good thing if we want to admit our mistake.The following are expressions of accusing,blaming,and admitting.

Blaming Someone (Menyalahkan Seseorang)
      Blaming is when someone said that person did a mistake that should be her/his responsibility, like choosing wrong way.
      Expression of Blaming is an expression that is used to say on somebody the responsibility for something done (badly or wrongly) or not done.

Expressing Blaming
It was your fault
You are the one to blame
Serves you right
How could you do such a thing?
It’s your mistake/fault.
I think you are to blame.
I think you are the one who could have done it.
Are you out of your mind?
I can’t believe that you did it.
I hope you’re sorry.
I hope you are sorry for….
Serves you right.
What on earth were you thinking?

Someone who accused or blamed usually declines it. The following are the responses used :
It’s not true
It wasn’t me
You are wrong, I didn’t do it
I ‘m not the one to blame

Contoh Dialog Blaming Someone

Lisa : Hey, you Kiki. Stop!
Kiki : What happened, Lisa?
Lisa : Did you steal my money? You’re the one to blame!
Kiki : It wasn’t me. I didn’t do that.
Lisa : But everybody in my class said you do that. You have to explain about this!
Kiki : Huh! How dare you’re. I never do that suck things.

Lisa : Yeah, but my friends had seen you out of my classroom. It must be you stealing my money.
Kiki : Prove it, how dare you just accuse and blame me without clear evidence. I will pay your money if you can prove that suck things!
Lisa : Ok, I will prove that!
Kiki : I will wait for that!

Accusing Someone (Menuduh Seseorang)

Accusing Someone is expression when someone said that person did something wrong although she/he doesn’t know the truth, like stealing.

Expression of Accusing Someone :
It must have been you who did it
(pastilah Kamu yang telah melakukannya)
I think you’re the only person who could have done it
(saya kira hanya kamulah satu-satunya orang yang bisa mekakukannya)
You must be doing something wrong
(kamu pasti melakukan kesalahan)
You must have talked about me behind my back.
You dropped that porcelain glass last night, didn’t you?
You took my magazine, didn’t you?
You had lost all of my data on the computer.

Responses of Accusing :
I’m sorry. It’s my fault
Sorry for my fault
I’m sorry for the things. I’ve done
It’s my responsibility. I’m sorry
No, it wasn’t me
Yes, I did. Sorry for not asking you first.
I’m really sorry. I didn’t mean to.

Contoh Dialog Accusing Someone

Dede : Kiki, stop right now?
Kiki : What?
Dede : Did you steal my handphone?
Kiki : No, I do not do that!
Dede : Seriously? But everybody in the class say that must be you! It was your fault Kiki!
Kiki : What? I never do that! Seriously! You’re such as a lier!! I hate you!
Dede : Huh! How could you run away from all this, and pretended not to know!
Kiki : You do not talk nonsense, prove it Dede!!
Dede : Huh! Sure I will.

Admitting Mistake

Admitting mistakes is someone's consciousness who’s doing something wrong or on purpose. The word which usually use is ‘sorry, forgive me', etc 

 Admitting mistakes can also be expressed to represent the person who made mistake. Thus, you can help to solve the problems. So that many people would love to be your friends. This skill can liberate you and allow you and others to move on to better relationships and outcomes.    

The example expressions of Admitting Mistakes:

  ž  I’m sorry. It’s my fault.

  ž  I admit what I have done is wrong.

  ž  Sorry, I didn’t mean to.

  ž  Yes, I take the blame.

  ž  It’s my mistakes. Please forgive me.

  ž  I know. I shouldn’t have done that. Sorry.

  ž  I never intended it that way.

  ž  You’re right. I’m fully responsible for this matter.

  ž  I'm sorry that I've ignored your opinion.

  ž  This has been my terrible mistake.

  ž  Sorry, I was rude to you.

Contoh Dialog Admitting Mistake

Jane       : Who should be responsible to this?

Maid    : Sorry miss, I have to admit that it is my fault.

Jane     : So, what will you do now??

Maid    : Yes miss, so I will replace the food with the new one.